What are the first signs of dementia I should look out for?

I've noticed things about my mum that worry me: she repeats the same questions, gets lost in familiar places, and seems uninterested. I don't know if I'm overreacting. What signs should I really be concerned about?

Trusting what you are observing is important — those who live closely with someone often notice subtle changes before anyone else. Your concern deserves to be taken seriously, not dismissed.

Why it happens

In the early stages, dementia manifests subtly and can easily be attributed to tiredness or age. The difference lies in the pattern and persistence: these are not isolated lapses, but changes that continue and begin to interfere with daily life.

Practical strategies

• Look out for: repeating questions, getting lost in familiar places, difficulty managing money or medication.
• Note language difficulties (not finding words) and reasoning problems.
• Observe changes in mood, initiative, or interest.
• Write down concrete examples with dates.
• Book an appointment with your GP.

What NOT to do

• Do not wait "to see if it passes" if the signs persist.
• Do not subject your mum to improvised tests at home.
• Do not alarm or confront her in an accusatory way.

When to seek professional help

If several of these signs persist for weeks and affect autonomy, consult your GP for an initial assessment and possible referral. Early diagnosis allows for planning and access to support. The SNS 24 Helpline (808 24 24 24) can provide guidance if you have doubts.

"For months I wondered if I was overreacting. I wasn't. Acting early gave us time to decide things together, while she still could." — Anonymous Carer